It seems like an oxymoron to say, "You have to be selfish to be selfless." However, the truth is that taking care of ourselves first is essential for us to be able to truly serve and support others. When we talk about being selfish, we don't mean being inconsiderate or solely focused on our own personal gain. Instead, being selfish in this context means prioritizing our mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.
Consider the scenario of being on an airplane and the flight attendants instructing passengers about the oxygen masks. They emphasize the importance of securing your own mask before assisting others. Why? Because if you neglect your own well-being and try to help someone else without taking care of yourself first, you might end up passing out or unable to help effectively. However, if you prioritize your own oxygen mask, you ensure your own stability and can then provide assistance to others, benefiting both parties.
Life operates in a similar way. We often come across individuals who are struggling while we ourselves may be facing challenges. Although it's possible to extend a helping hand while we are also in need, doing so may deplete us entirely. However, by consistently prioritizing self-care, we can build resilience and ensure that we are in a better position to help others without sacrificing our own well-being. In simple terms, you can't give someone else 100% if you are operating at only 75%.
By being selfish in the sense of self-care, we cultivate the necessary strength, energy, and emotional balance to support others effectively. When we take the time to nurture ourselves mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, we become more capable of showing up as our best selves. We have more to give, both in terms of compassion and practical support, without compromising our own health and happiness. It is through this balance of self-care and selflessness that we can make a more significant and sustainable positive impact in the lives of those around us.
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